Moving Beyond Loss

Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any loss would include death and divorce as obvious losses. Our list also includes many others; retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues etc.

The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society.
Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce or for other reasons.

The Problem

While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual. The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid. The misinformation is best described in the following:

Six Myths

. Time Heals All Wounds
. Grieve Alone
. Be Strong
. Don’t Feel Bad
. Replace The Loss
. Keep Busy

Just looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who had waited 10, 20, 30 and 40 years, and still didn’t feel better. And, we know that they will tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.

The Solution

Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “Let Go”, and “Move On” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how. Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion. Before taking the actions to complete, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but which are not working.

Safety and Correct Actions

The Grief Recovery Method Outreach Program provides the correct action choices that help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. There is an eight-week program, which creates a safe environment in which to look at old beliefs about dealing with loss; to look at what losses have affected your life; and to take new actions which lead to completion of the pain attached to one of those losses.

There are those grievers who prefer the one-on-one approach to grief recovery. If this is applicable to you, a seven-week program is available where you are asked to make the commitment to recovery by participating in the required number of sessions, which lead to completion of the pain attached to one or more losses.

Commitment and Attendance

The Grief Recovery Method Outreach Program is not an occasional drop-in group. For the safety and success of all participants in the group, commitment and attendance are essential. The Grief Recovery Method Outreach Program is facilitated by Theresa Malnar, who has been certified by the Grief Recovery Institute. To ensure your success within this program, your facilitator has direct access to the founders of the Institute.

Grief Support Groups & Programs

The goal of the Grief Recovery Method eight-week program is to help you complete your relationship to the pain, isolation and loneliness caused by significant emotional loss of any kind. Recovery and Completion are achieved by MAKING A SERIES OF SMALL AND CORRECT CHOICES.

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If you are participating in the one-on-one program, you will be asked  to commit to the given assignments, so that you can benefit from the work that you are about to undertake, to allow this process to be successful. As a Grief Recovery Specialist, I am there to help you complete what is emotionally unfinished between you and someone or something, that has affected your life.

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This program is conducted in association with the Grief Recovery Institute. While this program is primarily for parents and other principal guardians, it is also valuable for counselors, teachers, clergy and anyone else who has a custodial relationship with children, to help children deal with the pain, confusion and other emotions caused by losses of all kinds.

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More than $75 billion is lost by businesses large and small, due to their ineffective awareness of and reaction to the grief events that affect the lives of the employees and executives who make up their companies.

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If you’ve found yourself almost inconsolable after your pet died, please know that you’re normal. If you’ve found that your family and friends don’t seem to understand the level of your grief, please know that, too, is normal.

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